Saturday, December 30, 2006

Friendship... ...

What is a friend? A friend asked me this question one day in an attempt to start a seemingly intellectual conversation. I of course provided a seemingly intellectual answer which amounted to crap (though I refused to acknowledge that at that point of time). I said, “A friend is someone who will pat you on the back and say ‘good job’ after you are done with irritating him or her.” Well, I was trying to irritate him at that time of course but now I come to see that the particular statement has its merit. A true friend will brave untold dangers for you, someone who will watch your back with you feeling perfectly safe. That notion may be too remote in today’s context, but someone who will be sensitive to your every move and takes much care in your feelings. Always there to offer encouragement without blinding you to the truth, always there to lend a helping hand without leading you to be too dependent.

So back to the statement, then of course a true friend will not mind the irritation that you cause to him or her and instead focus on the stimulus which caused you to have a mind to irritate him or her. If the cause of you irritating your friend is due to some unhappy stimulus that you suffered, the friend will understand and see the irritation as an outlet for your frustration. If the irritation has no unkind stimulus and purely a result of mischief, then the friend would see it as an act with no harm intended and should measure up to the mischief by not appearing to be ruffled by the irritating acts. Either way, ‘good job’ sounds like the ideal phrase to say. However, I would think that it needs someone of a high threshold to remain impassive or even encouraging in the face of irritation. Most people, myself included, cannot stand people irritating us. We will retaliate most of the time by being more irritating.

I have been encouraged by certain friends recently. The things that they do are very heartening, it is those little things that people tend to overlook that make them special and huge when they are fulfilled. It is amazing how fast and deep friendships can be forged. I think you just have to meet the right people at the right time. I realize that you can talk about anything with certain people even though you may not know them for long, yet it is difficult for you to utter a single word to some people you have known for entire life. I suppose chemistry between people plays a large part when it comes to developing friendships. Forgive me if I am not making sense, I think the lethargy is kicking in and the brain is the first to witness it. Should continue on friendship on another day… …

Posted by cloudy at 3:06 AM

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1 Comments:
...u r making perfect sense!!It's very true that chemistry plays a big part is this special asset-friendship. Time.com realised the power time can play to such assets...haha...
It isnt always about the length but more about the depth...it's about how this asset has been developed by the above 2 variables...and how the characters in it react and treasure this asset...It's a mutual thing and really effort and commitment is needed from all parties to sustain it...The best product...is when one heart can hear and feel the other haha....It's a friendly, friend-made,fren-fren relationship...=D

Your horoscope for today reads: "Feeling under-appreciated? The trouble is that you have been giving your all and not giving your friends a chance to reciprocate...count on your loved ones to come through"-STimes

RMb fren..it's mutual...True frens brave the weather...share weal n woe...haha=D no worries yeah...haha...

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